Cynthia Francillon has been 32 years old and has never seen her parents fighting.
“Debate, for sure. But never engage in conflict. Never experienced a frosty moment between them “she said in a now very popular Twitter thread.
Francillon once called them up and inquired about their ostensibly perfect relationship since he was interested in how they had managed to stay together for 37 years.
More than 173,000 people have liked the thread in which Francillon described the interaction. The interaction between her parents and her father’s mother was their largest marital hurdle, according to her parents, who declined to be identified in this account, and conquering it strengthened their bond.
Francillon also got her parents’ opinion when she asked them about their biggest argument. They said that the keys to their marriage’s success were finding new ways to support and love one another each day and having the guts to be open and vulnerable with one another at difficult times.
Francillon said that while her family lived together, she was unaware that her grandmother, whom she had never seen, had verbally assaulted her mother when her father was at work.
After reaching her breaking point one evening, Francillon’s mother threatened to leave her husband unless he established limits with his mother. Father of Francillon made the choice to help mother.
“I knew your mom was right for me, so I made the decision from the bottom of my heart. I had to keep her safe, even from my mother “Francillon remembered in her Twitter thread what her father had stated. She said that her father dealt with his grief over his decision in a way that increased her mother’s regard for him.
In the end, Francillon said, the challenging and emotional experience enhanced their marriage.
She told Insider that when it comes to love, her parents have been her biggest influencers, and she listed the two most important relationships lessons they have taught her.
You may choose to be in love each and every day.
Francillon claimed to have fallen in love twice and described herself as “extremely romantic” to Insider.
She told Insider that as a result of such encounters, she was able to appreciate her parents’ daily “deliberate” love for one another more.
After leaving their native Haiti as young adults, her parents eventually crossed paths in the US. Their appreciation for the life they were creating together came before anything else, according to Francillon, despite the fact that they have very different personalities — her mother is a “bright light” with an exuberant laugh, while her father has been more reserved, firm, and a constant support to his wife and three daughters.
According to Francillon, “With my parents, I realize that the core of their love is appreciating who they are as individuals, what they needed, and being able to perceive that for one other.
Being vulnerable under trying circumstances fosters respect and trust
According to Sara Elysée, a certified therapist who is also from Haiti, her father’s choice to establish limits with his mother was a big matter since Haitian families have a strong regard for their elders.
Francillon said that her father taught her the value of being vulnerable in relationships, even when it is uncomfortable at the time.
Francillon’s mother remarked that after their one and only argument, she gained complete faith and respect in her partner because of her father’s choice and how he handled it.
“She said that when he did it, it actually helped her see something in a person that she had never noticed before. That’ll alter you, “Francillon disclosed to Insider.