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Stop hunting for a good man if he is difficult to find.
Marissa Baker, 30, and Patty Kulak, 27, describe themselves as “platonic soulmates” and claim they “do not need a man to be happy.”
The Naples, Florida residents met at Baker’s birthday celebration on New Year’s Day, 2021, where Baker saw that Kulak appeared depressed. Kulak immediately disclosed to Baker that she and her spouse had recently decided to divorce.
Baker committed to be Kulak’s strong support system to help him get through the difficult moment.
Kulak stated, “She welcomed me with open arms.” This girl who primarily knew my husband was the most empathetic friend I could have dreamed.
A few months later, in May 2021, Baker went through her second divorce and turned to Kulak for support.
“Marissa checked in with me daily for six months, and when the six-month mark arrived, she asked if I was okay, to which I responded, ‘yeah,’ to which she replied, ‘well, I’m not’. I asked her what was wrong, and she responded, “I am getting a second divorce.” Allow me to move in?’ Since then, we have been inseparable,” Kulak recalled of her “no-brainer” response.
Marissa Baker (foreground) and Patty Kulak (background) became close after deciding to move in together after ending their respective marriages.
They became housemates towards the end of the month and instantly connected over their shared interest in “positivity and personal development.”
“We quickly realized how similar we are,” Baker exclaimed. “We want to sit on our balcony, drink tea, and watch the sunset, and we want to be in bed by 8:30 p.m. because we will be working out at 4 a.m. the following morning.”
“We’ve developed such a strong bond over something that can be considered so ugly,” she continued.
According to Baker, the ladies feel more valued in their current relationships than they ever did with their ex-husbands, and more like wives.
Baker and Kulak claim that they are not attracted to one another.
“It is bizarre. Our entire relationship has been pretty straightforward,” said Baker, adding that Kulak “is like ‘boom, got it’” when she says the word. We call each other platonic life partners in jest because we help each other figure out anything the universe does, and it’s so much fun.
Baker believes that despite their cosmic connection, their love is only based on an emotional bond. She joked, “If I could choose a husband, I would want Patty in male form,” but they “are not attracted to each other.”
She acknowledged, though, that their close relationship may have set a “extremely high bar” for romantic relationships.
Baker has noted for future relationships that she adores how straightforward Kulak is. Baker stated, “I never have to guess what she is thinking because she will always tell me. She has no problem expressing what she likes and dislikes.”
She continued, “I am confident that my relationship with Patty is secure.” “I will never be manipulated, and I will never have to worry that she is thinking something about me that I am unaware of.”
As they explore this new chapter of their lives, the divorcees look back on the past fifteen months with gratitude for the opportunity to work on themselves jointly.
Studies demonstrate that unmarried and childless women are happier than their married counterparts.
Baker remarked, “The communication and acceptance create a lovely environment.”
According to studies, these best friends may have unlocked the code. Professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, Paul Dolan, discovered that unmarried, childless women are the happiest segment of the population.
“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I’m going to do this science a massive disservice by simply stating: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother,” he added.
Therefore, Kulak and Baker’s theory that “you don’t need a man to be happy” is correct.
»I moved in with my platonic soulmate after divorce – you don’t need men«