A parenting choice inspired by the television program “Super Nanny” and the several books by Jo Frost.
In retrospect, Emily hates her technique tremendously.
Emily modeled her parenting style off the TV show “Super Nanny.:
Emily tells Kidspot that her 15-year-old daughter remembers time out as terrible.
“My heart just fell. I felt terrible would be an understatement. There is remorse present. I only wish I had acquired the proper skills sooner.”
Certainly, it worked at the time…
Emily, 45, adds that when her then-three-year-old daughter displayed “undesirable behaviors,” she was given a warning, and if the conduct persisted, she was sent to the “time-out mat” or the “naughty place” for one minute for every year of her age.
She was then required to explain why she had been brought there, apologize, give a hug, and depart.
Emily asserts, “It certainly disturbed her.” Certainly, it worked at the time.
Emily’s parenting approach was inspired by the television show “Super Nanny.”
This method was employed one to three times a week with Emily’s first daughter between the ages of three and five, but not with her younger girls, who are now 10 and 13.
“I believed it to be a tool that worked. I didn’t know any better and I surely didn’t want to hit them, so this seemed a better alternative at the moment.
“I do feel awful that she recalls it so vividly.”
Sadly, Emily acknowledges that there weren’t many other “tools” to guide their parenting decisions all those years ago, and she was not raised with this method.
Perhaps my mother was more tolerant of the situation than I could have been.
“I wish I had access to a less punishing instrument”
In hindsight, Emily recognizes how this would be “traumatic” for youngsters, especially if the child is sensitive like her daughter.
“She hated being in trouble, and she still does at 15 years old, so in retrospect I wish I had a less harsh method to discipline her.”
The mother disclosed that her daughter was disturbed by the “bad area.”
The mom revealed her daughter got traumatized from the “naughty spot.”
But Emily believes “what’s done is done” and emphasizes that her kid has always been raised in a caring environment.
She says, “I’m confident she’ll be okay in the end.”
“There is minimal guidance and help available”
Emily finds it “fascinating” that you must study or have a license to operate automobiles or machines, yet new parents are just “sent on your way.”
She explains, “[You] attempt to blunder your way through it and hope that in the end you’ve created happy, responsible, resilient individuals.”
It is the most essential job that any of us will ever have, yet there is so little advice and assistance available.
Emily first implemented it to get rid of “undesirable behaviors.”
Emily originally implemented it to get rid of “undesirable behaviors.
“We all make so many unnecessary mistakes along the way—if only we as parents are given just some of the tools as part of pre-natal classes or even access to the information after leaving the hospital. I consider it an investment in society.”
After completing a course on positive parenting, Emily deduced her daughter’s behavior, at the time, could have been triggered by her need for attention while they raised their two younger children.
She was not receiving the undivided attention that is ingrained into all children.
Emily’s parenting approach has developed since then, with the inclusion of “special time” with her daughters. Ten minutes of Emily’s entire attention are devoted to the completion of a job with the pair.
My daughters enjoyed doing my hair and makeup, dressing me, playing with my jewelry, reading books and playing games with me.